How to spend it

SUBTITLED: THE MONEY WE DON’T HAVE

Just now, few hours to year end I want to write about this for a precise reason: I wish to ideally kick 2011 in the ass and send it far away in the corners of memory, because 2011 is the year of crisis – and was a bad year for me too not only monetary wise-.

It was a friday afternoon some weeks ago when I was slowly approaching the end of the day, I was tidying up my desk, postponing the filing of millions of papers for the umpteenth time, unable to find the will to do it and just piling them in an overloaded folder, I entered my boss office to check if there was anything else he needed and while wishing me a good weekend he hands me over a glossy magazine: “Laura, something for your train ride”. It was one of those moment when the few remaining hours between me and the weekend start were loaded with all the burden of an intense working week.

After the last effort, I switch off the computer, finally leave the office premises, get on the train and open the magazine. And there I am, with my wavering mood of the friday afternoon, I find myself in front of the Friday edition of the Financial Times which is called -in all fairness outrageously- “How to spend it“. Well there we go, My boss reads daily the FT and also the Wall Street Journal, and even though he is a top manager he is totally down to earth and also the best boss I ever had (let me add, just in case he ever finds out about my blog!). But there I found myself offended also in his name, by the fact that the editorial staff of FT is obviously giving for granted that only people that not only have money but also are disgustingly snobbish read their paper! Moreover this magazine is not a normal size A4 but is more an A3, like a slap in the face of the monetary austerity and is a 62 pages of pure and only luxus goods.

Just after the cover even far before the index there is a 2 page advertisement of a Chanel watch, as big as my face. Follows another 2 pages dedicated to a mobile phone I clearly have never heard of called VERTU (FYI I was trying to find out prices online now and I just can understand they fluctuate between the thousands of euros). Finally after another Louis Vuitton watch we get to the index. In total, out of 62 pages, 12 are about watches, followed by jewels, luxury cognac, clothes, prohibitive holiday destinations, leather chairs and finally a few lines. They even bothered to write down a piece of article!

Well, don’t get me wrong, I perfectly know that the world is populated by rich people too… but lately I happened to notice more and more their big cars in the streets while wondering if their owners do pay taxes in my poor country… Also I think it’s a sensitive time when we reflect on how unbalanced are distributed wealth and power, the rich people are just grasping more and more for themselves, while middle class get poorer. So wasn’t really my favourite reading.

I turned the last page with a smile cause i had no other choice, I assume, unless I win the lottery tomorrow. I am not one of them and I don’t wish to be if this means being the dumb public of such a magazine. In the end I find it quite hilarious and honestly speaking there is even something i would save among their superficial shiny empty contents. There is a good writer, a female reporter who has a very funny and brilliant dedicated column called: “Chronicles of a spa junkie”. Of course she tells stories about places and things we can only dream about. But she doesn’t sound posh. I also wish I was a succesfull writer who gets paid to get scrubbed and rubbed down every second day!

Check it here:

http://www.howtospendit.com/#!/articles/6330-chronicles-of-a-spa-junkie

ALL THE REASONS WHY IS WORTH SPENDING XMAS AT HOME

Even when you are not really in the mood because for example, like in my case, you have spent all December running around, a very intense month of work and movements… which finally leads you landing in Venice on 22nd of December without having even realized that Xmas is now, and also that you didn’t buy any present yet!

Even when you wish to be a child again cause nothing can’t be magical anymore as an adult, except if you go to Eurodisney!

Even when you don’t feel at all the good spirit spreading in the hearts around, cause you hear repeated constantly in the media there is a Crisis with capital C, economy is bad, too much poverty and war on this earth…

Even when there is a mayor strike and your train is cancelled and all the people reverse on the only one running, an epic “train of hope” with all the emigrants going back home standing, squeezing, full of bags suitcases and panettoni… the true “journey of hope” on reverse.

Even if you wake up in the worst mood possible then you think of last year –the very first and only Xmas you did not spend at home, and how much you missed it all, including the clichés and the paradoxes…

in the end, these are all the reasons I could find why you discovered again is always worth spending Xmas it at home:

My mum that this year decorated our lamp in the living room pretending is our Xmas tree, is our Xmas abat-jour: shall I put my presents underneath the lamp??? I see how much she tries, though… for me.

My mum calling up all the relatives and suddenly she switches into Sicilian accent (but my mum is not the Sicilian side of the family!).

Eating the left overs while preparing dozen of tartine (appetizer canapes), something I can remember eating since I was a kind and only exclusively for Xmas eve.

Spending from 11 am till 18 pm into the shopping mall for the greatest shopping of the year: I feel like I robed Sarah Jessika Parker wardrobe!

Spending the day in my pyjama, wrapping presents and then forgetting for whom they are while taking my laptop from one room to the other with the xmas playlist playing in loop.

My best friend calling up and introducing me and all the singles she knows in town in one long evening to cheer me up over the holidays.

Driving a car for hours round and round looking for a parking, something you can enjoy as much as I do only if you don’t drive for the remaining 360 days of the year!!!

Arguing with my sister because I find her being earlier after 30 years of her life being always late; and this time I am late cause I gave for granted she was too, but I am the most punctual person on earth…

Thinking about the time I was working under Xmas as a shopping assistant and thanking God that I don’t have to do this anymore.

Meeting my first love and discovering he starts growing grey hair, find it very familiar but also totally stranger at the same time, laughing out loud for so funny we still find each other and for all the time that has passed.

Thinking what to wear not just to be elegant but mostly because we are going to wait for midnight drinking wine out in the streets of the udinese osterias with -2 degrees.

Wherever you are, and especially if you are or simply feel away from that place called home even if you phisically are there, my best wishes to you all!

BUON NATALE da Red

Paris metro

Just came back from a 4 days weekend in Paris. Well, i wanted to go to London, but who can complain of handing up in Paris? While wandering around i was asking myself if this is the real romantic city or if this is just a clichè… Lately unfortunately the public manifestation of love bother me sensitively. I guess that is a form of jealousy and that whenever I am single -which part of me still believe is not a natural condition for the true me, something I am afficted by, like a disease- I will find this very annoying, Anyway Paris defenetly has something lovely and almost happily sickening… not sure if it derives from the architecture, from the tasty oportunities for the palate, from the history oozing from every piece of stone, from all of these together… Besides the fact that I have been strongly assaulted by two main things: the urine smell of the subway and the perfume of the boulangerie in the streets.

Anywa, one of the ideas that kept bouncing from one corner to the other of my skull, generated from my activity of observer-writer. I was sitting on the metro and relised how narrow are the seats there, with all the people pushing and pulling to get to sit. I was in a brasserie and relised how non-detached are the tables with the strangers eating almost from your own plate and listening to your intimate conversation. I find this human proximity quite special. My first reaction wasn’t so positive, then i started thinking how in CH the perseption of personal space is radically different. I would dare to say that in Switzerland there is a diffuse attitude towards politeness and good manners, but these stay ona very superficial level, people tend to be worried about being correct with the others and to expect the same, they expect everyone to observe the rules. On the other hand I found that in Paris there was more true solidarity, something that sounds like: “we are all sitting here, so close to each other; oh sorry, I am stepping on your feet, I am sitting on your coat, I almost fall on you while the train breaks… and in this forced neighbourhood, in this lesson that the city and the culture around us wish to teach us, we understand eachother, we accept each other.” I thought that in Switzerland there is in general more respect of the common living, more fairplay, a more clear distinction between private and public, but also more distance, which means less opportunity to get to (or to wish to) know your neighbour and thus less tolerance. So for once I was happy to get rid of my aseptic cover and to mix with the parisian multicolour crowed. This is the best feeling i bring home from these french days.